While driving in my car with my children the other day, we were listening to a popular Disney soundtrack. For the first time, the words my two-year-old daughter had been shouting from the back seat hit me. She was loudly singing,
“Every girl can be a princess, any dream can be. Close your eyes and see… A magic wand and soon you've gone From just you to royalty… Your heart is pure, you're thoughtful Surely princess, you're almost there… The most perfect princess is you”
In hearing the words to this song, the Lord began stirring in me a greater passion than I had ever known for the hearts of girls and women in our society. From toddlerhood, we are told that we are princesses. There is an unspoken expectation to grow into this perfect calling of being a beauty queen. Think with me for a moment. What does our society portray a princess as? A cookie cutter girl with long hair, perfectly toned skin, straight white teeth, big eyes, a tiny figure, elegant clothing, expensive shoes, a magnetic and outgoing personality, etc. We all know how society saturates our minds into thinking that this is the ultimate expectation. There is a lie that we begin to buy into. It’s this idea that if we arrive into womanhood having obtained the “ultimate goal” of being a princess, then we have succeeded. If we fall short of these standards, we are told something is wrong with us. It’s as though society screams at us that we will never have success or contentment unless we look, act, and speak a certain way.
I am so grateful that this is NOT the calling that we have been given by our heavenly Father. We do not have to live under this weight of feeling like we have “never arrived”. I want to remind you, that for those of us who have placed our hope and trust in the finished work of Jesus Christ on the cross, we are called daughters of the King. We have been adopted as daughters into the royal family. That means there is no place that we have to arrive at, or person we have to become. (Romans 8:14-17) We have been created in the image of God. Any good that comes from us has nothing to do with how we look or act. It is only by the grace of Jesus Christ. (Isaiah 64:6-8)
I write to all women regardless of your age, the way you appear, or the career you have. I will be the first to confess with my own mouth, that we, as women, tend to walk with veils over our faces and with guards up around our hearts. We want all other people, but especially other women, to think that we are doing well. We want others to see us as creatures that can embrace life and handle anything that is thrown at us. But the truth of the matter is that we are all weak and insecure vessels. When sin entered the world, back in the garden, so did insecurity. Our insecurities manifest differently, but the root issue in each of us is the exact the same, our heart. There are those of us who struggle with our body image. We desire to fit into the smallest clothes and have the slimmest of figures. Usually that manifests in limiting our intake of food or ridding ourselves of the food that we have eaten. There are also those of us who struggle with laziness and a lack of time management. That can play out in sleeping most of our days away or maybe wasting the time we do have on things that are simply fun and enjoyable. There are those of us who are lonely and therefore spend a good chunk of our time turning to food or alcohol to aid in the pain that we are trying to bear on our own. There are those of us willing to do whatever it takes to be a part of or fit into a group of girls that has status—even if that means allowing our words to be harsh and hurtful to others. There are those of us who are in desperate need of being desired by a man. We will say anything, become anyone and do anything to win over the attention of a man that we have our eyes set on. There are times when this approval of men does not stop, even after we get married. More often than not, this particular situation ends in a broken home. The root issue in each of these situations is the same: A heart of a woman whose hope, identity and satisfaction are not found in Jesus Christ alone.
A desire to be healthy, a liking of fun activities, an enjoyment of food, a craving for friendships, a longing to be in a relationship or married; each of these things in and of themselves are not wrong. When they become ultimate things in our lives and take the place of Jesus Christ, they become idols.
So, what grounds your heart? Where is your hope? Who do you find your identity and security in? If the answer to these questions is not Jesus Christ, then we need to reevaluate some things.
Jeremiah 17:7-8 (ESV) says “Blessed is the man who trusts in the Lord, whose trust is in the Lord. He is like a tree planted by water, that sends out its roots by the stream, and does not fear when heat comes, for its leaves remain green, and is not anxious in the year of drought, for it does not cease to bear fruit.”
The call to be a princess does not come from society’s definition. The invitation is not determined by the standards that we place on ourselves. Rather, daughter, enter into the presence of God. He is your Father, and He is King. Walk into the role created for you as a royal Princess. Feast at His banqueting table of delight. Thrive in His presence—knowing that your worth, your satisfaction, your contentment, your hope, your security and your identity all come from Him alone. To Him be all glory, and honor, and power, forever and ever. Amen.